You are finally married to your loved one and all set to start a new life. Your very first wedding night can seem to be awfully awkward, especially if yours is an arranged marriage. It is a night with mixed feelings of nervousness and also a whole lot of excitement at the same time.
Your first wedding night is not all about love making. There is much more than that, and it is a night to get to know your partner well. Explore your partner’s emotions and get to know them better. Your wedding night is a wonderful opportunity to get comfortable with your partner.
Below is HamaraEvent’s take on important things that every bride needs to know before her wedding night.
1. Don’t rush. Take it Slow
It has been a really tiring and a long day at your wedding. All the running around, wedding planning and the actual wedding day will wear you and your partner down, mentally and physically. So, you might really have no energy rush that day.
Take the time to discuss with your partner and check if they are in the same page as you. Start with small talks reminiscing about incidents that happened on your wedding day or complement each other. Sweet talks are a great way to break the ice and kick-start the romance.
This way you can slowly ease into intimacy and the night would be better, without any awkwardness.
2. Avoid Strenuous Question and Answer Session
Wedding night is a great night to engage in sweet talks with your partner, but do not over do it and be an interviewer. Don’t sit down and bog down your partner with too much formal conversation or questions, as though you are sitting in an interview.
You have got a whole life together, and so there is a better time to engage in questions later on. Keep the long talks for some other day. Your partner is not going to run away.
Kindle the romance by engaging in brief conversations and keep away from boring questions of future plans and so on.
3. Money Talks - A Strict No-NO!
You might have spent a lot for your wedding. However, talking about finances and money is not the right thing to do on your wedding night. Money matters are sensitive topics and you don’t want to dig deep into your partner’s bank balance.
This will throw a wrong impression on your partner that you are interested only in their money. Such discussions can always be done later, not when both of you are looking towards chances of intimacy.
Wedding night is a night to be cherished forever, so its better to distance yourself from money related talks. Take the opportunity to engage in sweet conversations complementing your partner on how beautiful they looked in the wedding day.
4. Shut off your past
The worst blunder that you could commit is blurting out too much about your past or triggering an unpleasant conversation about your ex-boyfriend. If you have a had a disturbing past relationship, you will need to forget about it forever and not disclose too much details about it in your wedding night.
Unpleasant conversations about the past will only create problems and suspicions in your partner’s mind. You should probably get to know such details before tying the knot and not on the first night.
So, don’t ever make a grave mistake to bring out the topic of past relationships on your wedding night.
5. Don’t expect too much
You might have some sexual experience or read about it, but that does not surely give you an upper hand. You cannot be a pro in your wedding night.
Your partner is going to be with you throughout your life, so don’t expect that everything will be perfectly right on the wedding night. There can be awkward situations.
This is not the only night that you will be spending with your loved one, so it is ok for it to not be perfect. Explore the intimacy slowly and don’t expect too much on your wedding night.
6. It is not just about the sex
A successful marriage is not just all about sex. It's about being well-connected to your partner in all areas physically, mentally and emotionally. Only when you and your partner are in the same page, will things work out?
Try to establish a good friendly relationship with your loved one prior to marriage. After the engagement, there is a lot of time for courtship and getting to know your partner really.
When you are mentally connected with each other, it makes life beautiful and also makes easier to connect physically. So, understand that marriage life is not about sex, it is about an all-around connection with your loved one.
7. The wedding night is just a start and not the end of life
Most couples will not have a picture perfect wedding night, and that is completely fine. However, they will love it and remember it for ages. There can be embarrassing situations and minor issues.
Remember that your wedding night is just the start of your married life, and there is no hard and fast rule to do it the first night itself. There is so much to look forward to and a long life to be spent together.
You have all the time to explore, learn and get better. Enjoy your wedding night as it and cherish the lovely moment spent together more than anything else.
8. It might be awkward
Making love is not a clean and precise process. It is definitely not like what we have seen in movies. It can be reallyawkward, messy, funny and uncomfortable all-together. It is completely ok to experience all of the above feelings on your wedding night.
Explore your love making skills slowly and don’t jump into any conclusions if you have an unpleasant experience on your wedding night. Just remember the intimate moments that you have spent together.
Keep in mind that you have a whole life together and can perfect your love making skills eventually.
9. Talk to a Friend
Share your feelings with a friend or mentor who can give you real-life tips and advices. If you have a trustworthy person to rely on, go ahead and share your heart with them. You can always talk to your girlfriends about how their wedding night went and gather some tips on what you can expect that night.
If you have questions, there can be nothing better than talking to someone who knows you well and get some real-life clarifications.
10. Kindle the romance
It is not a hard and fast rule that the man should always make the first move. You can also take that step and explore the intimacy. If you are feeling to shy, then it is ok. However, it does not mean that you doanything.
We hope that the following pointers will help you through your wedding night. We at HamaraEvent understand that you will be going through a whirlwind of emotions on your wedding night and so, have come up with some fine advice for all brides to have a perfect wedding night.