It is your day of the wedding; a time when you have transitioned from being a boy to a man according to societal norms. This means, you now have a life partner to care for and to pamper. In sickness and in health, in times good and bad, through thick and thin, you promise to be with her always. This is why, you should know how to win your bride's confidence and trust, from the moment you take the marriage vows with her. This would assure you of winning her heart. Here are a few tips to remember when meeting your bride for the first time at your wedding.

1.      Respect earns her trust

It is how you make her feel secure and nice, by not being overly pompous or joking about divorce or even trying to dominate her and forcing her to wish the guests that would make her feel happy and safe. But when you first meet her, ensure that you wish her with a smile or a shake of the hand. She is fragile at the moment and needs gentle behavior. She needs her soul mate by her side, which is you- earn her trust with utmost respect like a gentleman.

2.      Don't be intoxicated

Your bachelor night party was more than enough for you to drink; staying away from the intoxication of any form at your wedding is the best thing to do. Behaving yourself in proper ways, talking to her soft and low tone, and also maintaining eye contact with her in sober ways would be the best thing she would expect. This instills pride in her and she instantly knows her man is her best friend.

3.      Groom up for her

Whilst most eyes and attention is always on the bride, grooming up for the man is important too. Get a shave done, shower well, smell good, wear ironed clothes and polish your shoes too; don’t forget to gel your hair and powder your face a little. Nothing turns on a woman more than a well-groomed man. Keep the hippie bohemian look for another day; surprise your bride with a well-groomed husband she always dreamed of marrying.

4.      Listen to her as she speaks

She might be a little more nervous than you at the wedding, well most brides are. This is when she expects you to be a little more attentive to her needs. She wants you to listen to her; maybe she’s not feeling too well, maybe she’s tired and stressed out or maybe she just doesn’t want to mingle a lot- try and understand her needs without forcing her to do what you want her to do. This would be the key or a foundation to more trust being installed in the wedding.

5.      Address her personally with love

Maybe with a pet name you loved calling her always. She would like that personal touch in communication whilst the wedding is on. Don’t belittle her in front of your family and friends at the wedding. Praise her for her beauty, make her feel special. Don’t criticize her family members or her for the choices she has made. Remember, she has also chosen you to be her life mate, and the criticizing would doom the relationship too. Everyone has shortcomings; she would and you would too - learn to accept it and work together to overcome the same.

6.      Appreciate her for everything she has done

It takes two to tango always, which is why show some appreciation she and her family together have done to make this wedding a success. It's okay if the food is not up to the mark or the bands aren’t belting out good songs, and it is okay if the wedding color isn’t the theme color you liked. What matters most here is that she has chosen this with love, and to make this wedding a success. Show her some appreciation for the goodness she has brought in.

7.      Encourage her to be in touch with her family

It is a tough time at Vidaai when she has to bid adieu to her family and settle in a new home. Don’t be too rigid and tough with her here. Let her take the time to hug and cry out the emotions a plenty. As a man, you wouldn’t understand what she’s going through at the moment, but you can contribute by being a loving husband with patience that waits. While she’s on her journey with you to the new house, speak to her about her interests and encourage her to speak to her family and friends on the phone if need be.

8.      Shower her with a surprise gift

Whilst the families exchange goodies and gifts with one another, you as her husband can do something special to surprise her with. It needn’t be an elaborate one, but something small and simple too can do the trick. Maybe secretly get her an ice-cream flavor she likes or pop in a bunch of flowers she loves when you are alone with her. Present her with a promise ring again; maybe a small diamond studded one that would be just from you to her. Surprise her and win her heart.

9.      Eat with her

When eating your first meal, don’t exclude her presence around. Serve her, and she will do the same for you. Don’t only feed yourself or force her to eat something she doesn’t want. Remember, just as the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, the same would hold for women too- they may not say the same - they want the same, though. Look at her as a precious pearl that needs a little more than the usual care at the dining table, and eat with her or maybe feed her your first bite too. This enhances love and romance.

10.      Don't be moody when around her

Post marriage and at the reception, there are many wedding games played - cake feeding o maybe finding the ring. Be a sport if you lose a round and don’t take revenge on the bride ever. This would only tell her not to trust you and that you have mood swings and anger issues that she may not want to see. She would turn out to be a husband pleaser at all times, forcefully, which she doesn’t want. Allow her to play fair, and you to play fair as well- this helps the bonding increase and the trust too.

           We hope these ten tips on winning your bride’s heart at the wedding comes in handy. Have a great wedding and make your wife feel like the queen of your life because she is!